For the last number of weeks I have been posting about the importance of honouring your own grief and loss, in this post I am going to focus on you being a compassionate support to yourself.
I have been sharing some of my own experiences and perhaps offering you a slightly different way of being with yourself as you journey through your grief and loss.
Being a Compassionate Support
I have made a video for this post and I really found myself getting very emotional as I recorded it. I wanted to really get across the need to reach in and be a compassionate support to yourself.
Take 10 Minutes
Give yourself 10 minutes to watch the video. I would suggest you take some time away from the hustle and bustle as you watch this video.
I hope you have been able to hear my invitation for you to be gentle with yourself through grief and loss, and especially through this month of November. It is widely believed that the spirit world is very close to us at this time of winter. This is the time to connect with those who have passed over. This is the time to admit you are grieving close losses. This is the time to be compassionate with yourself. This is the time…
Making Compassionate Support A Daily Practice
In the video above, I invite you to take just a minute or two everyday for the rest of November and perhaps everyday for the rest of your life, to reach into your heart and be the compassionate support that you need.
What Is Compassionate Support
What is compassionate support. It is something that we need and deserve. Compassionate support and love is what you should have experienced as a child in infancy. You fall and you are comforted. You get upset at school and you feel listened to and heard at a level that is deeper than words. You get a safe, loving hug and you feel you are supported even when you are struggling.
We Learn Compassionate Support In Childhood
Quite often these experiences can be lacking in childhood, leaving you unable to accept compassionate support from others or even to be compassionate support to yourself. If you don’t experience it in childhood, you will find it very difficult to be it through your life. But it is not impossible to make great changes. I call this retuning because that what you are doing. You are retuning your ability to be compassionate support for yourself and others.
Just 1 Way
In this video I offer you one way of being compassionate support. Just one way. If you feel you have a block in your energy when it comes to you feeling safe allowing others to be a compassionate support to you, or you being this for yourself, seek help. I suggest you try Kinesiology, Reiki, Integrated Energy Therapy, or any therapy that you feel attracted to, but begin your retuning soon.
Give It A Go
Try the technique offered in the video and perhaps keep trying it every day, even just for a minute or two. You might just find that while it is uncomfortable to do at the beginning, gradually you will spend longer and longer in compassionate support of yourself. You will notice you are more compassionate with others too. You will then begin to be your own best friend, minding yourself more.
Support Yourself Through Grief
Compassionate support will allow you to support yourself as your continue to process your grief and loss. There is no one size fits all with grief, or loss. There is no one way to grieve your loss. By being compassionate with yourself and supporting yourself and you grieve, you might find the journey a little easier.
Most of all, I pray you can be that compassionate support you need as you grieve your loss.